Oral Sex: A Square Peg in a Round Hole – By Bosede Ola-Samuel
Oral sex is fast becoming the rule rather than the exception in our world. This is because it’s fast gaining ground in our societies. It’s also a subject of interesting discussion for those with a strict religious background.
Recently, in a Christian gathering of women, I sat stupefied as I listened to Christian leaders routing for oral sex as an approved type of sex for married couples. In fact, those leaders openly canvassed that oral s3x is biblically right for the married since the Bible doesn’t specify how s3x should be conducted by married couples. To them, there’s no limitation to how married couples can explore their bodies for sexual pleasure.
But, I sat down there unconvinced that what they said about it ─ oral sex ─ was right. I haven’t changed my position, though I was not willing to challenge anybody about how he or she chooses to live his or her life sexually. After all, it’s a free world.
However, all that changed a few weeks ago when in my moment of deep meditation, I suddenly became afraid as to the level our generation is taking the adventures for s3xual pleasure to. I was convinced that if care is not taken, we will soon cross the level of sanity beyond acceptable sound reasoning. So, I decided right there that it was time to scream blue murder about oral sex.
Without bothering to state categorically the stand of the pro-oral-sex group, I would like to call for our reasoning as to how nature has positioned human beings for s3x. That’s why I state here that oral s3x is a square peg in a round hole.
Nature positions the sex organs of both males and females in the middle part of the body. Without a doubt, it means that nature expected us to restrict the usage of the organs to the middle part of the body, accordingly. Anything other than that is an aberration.
Let me further explain this position using the positioning of other body organs. With the mouth, you can only feed ‘normally’. When you have to feed without the mouth ─ then, it’s no longer normal, but a case of being sick. Likewise, when s3x is conducted orally, it’s no longer normal, but abnormal. Nature does not support oral sex with the configuration of the body.
A square peg in a round hole has damages. It’s no secret that a square peg in a round hole has to be forced in, and when it happens, it will cause certain damages ─ friction occurs, the intended effect will not be achieved, and the overall purpose will be defeated. This is also the case with oral s3x, as the end does not justify the means. It’s an adventure for pleasure taken too far. That’s why some married partners have had to live with condemnation in the heart. If it’s right, there will be no condemnation in the heart.
A married man, though succumbing to his wife’s desire for oral sex, kept having a bad feeling about the act. He simply couldn’t see the need for it in his heart. That violates one’s conscience, and the man could not live with it. Only God knows how many married partners are in the same mould with the engagement in oral sex to please their pleasure-seeking spouses. What a damage to others’ souls.
Today, many sicknesses, which never used to be, plague our generation, and one of the suspects is oral s3x. For instance, cancer of the throat. It’s medically established that its rise is associated with the increased act of oral s3x. Who knows what is responsible for other ailments?
A square peg in a round hole can’t be ruled out. Not for sure. At least, it calls for caution.
How did we get to a square hole in a round peg state?
It’s simply due to unrestrained adventure for sexual pleasure. Man naturally is very adventurous. We love to see what is not in existence. We search for what is not lost just for the fun of it. We tend to forget the saying about the cricket ─ when full, yet still seeks more to eat. For man, adventures will make ‘him’ try to thread where even angels fear.
We want more pleasure from s3x. So, we kept seeking till we arrived at oral s3x. What a dangerous adventure for pleasure.
Now, what is the conclusion of the whole point of my square peg in a round hole? In seeking s3xual pleasure, enjoy yourself, but tread carefully concerning oral s3x, knowing that your body will give an account.
As you lay your bed, so will you lay on it. I wrote before now that “oral s3x is not without consequences”, and I still stand by it without reservations.
